Intentional Marriage

In the courtly love tradition, the knight held vigil on the eve of consecration — a night of intentional wakefulness, prayer, and self-composure befor

Every tradition that practices departure has a liturgy of return. The sailor comes home and the house is lit. The pilgrim returns and the community ga

Every morning in a devotional marriage is a morning after something. After an encounter, after a conversation, after a quiet evening, after the small

Most marriage advice about sustaining desire begins from a deficit. The spark has dimmed. The passion has faded. The early urgency has given way to co

Every couple fights. The question is never whether conflict will enter the relationship but what the conflict will encounter when it arrives — what ar

Date night advice is among the most abundant and least useful genres in the marriage-advice industry. The standard prescriptions — try a new restauran

Compersion is the most discussed and least experienced emotion in the practice of sacred displacement. The word appears everywhere — in forum advice,

Every marriage therapist teaches communication skills. Very few teach communication rituals. The distinction matters. A skill is a capacity — the abil

The long view of devotional marriage begins with a metaphor that is not a metaphor. A cathedral takes generations to build. The masons who lay the fou

In the tantra tradition, time is not a line but a spiral. The year does not move away from the origin — it returns to it, again and again, each return